I hope you had a great 2013. This
is the time of the year when the arrival of the New Year is looming large and
people are planning their lives ahead. All this ultimately manifests itself
into a frustrating concept called the ‘New Year resolution’. I don’t have the
statistics to corroborate my conjecture but I am pretty sure that the best-laid
plans fall apart and the resolution, which starts off by an ebullition of
positive energy, loses steam and year after year, these resolutions aren't fulfilled.
IT'S THE JOURNEY NOT THE DESTINATION
What will happen if you ignored
your goal (which you are trying to achieve through your resolution) completely
and focused solely on the process of achieving it? Chances are that you
will be happy, nay, anxiety-free while simultaneously fulfilling your
ambitions.
I want
to lose 10 kg. I want to write a book. I want to learn a new language. It’s
great that you are forming these goals. Goals are important; they bring a sense
of purpose in life. But when you get obsessed about them, you are subliminally
delaying happiness. I will lose my flab, then I will rest. Let me once get over
with this book, then I will be happy. All these thoughts lead to
dissatisfaction and take the enjoyment out of the work.
So, try
this. Suppose you want to lose weight during the course of the next year, and
by the end of 2014, look slimmer and fitter than ever. Forget the numbers and
devise a workout schedule to realize your dream of a lean-and-fit body. Be
obsessed about sticking to your schedule and not missing a single workout.
THE SEINFELD STRATEGY
Regarded
as one of the top 100 comedians of all time by comedy central, Jerry Seinfeld
is one of the most successful comedians, writers and actors of his generation.
He is the co-creator and co-writer of Seinfeld, widely regarded as the greatest
sit-com of all time. Here is the Seinfeld strategy- get a big wall calendar
that has the whole year on one page and hang it on a prominent wall. The next
step is to get a big red magic marker. For each day that you adhere to your
schedule and complete your designated tasks for the day, put a big red X over
that day. After few days, you will have a chain. Just keep at it, and the chain
will grow longer every day. Your only job is not to break the chain.
START BEFORE YOU ARE READY
You
will notice that Seinfeld does not say a thing about results. Actually, they
don’t matter at all. All you have to do is turn up every day and start working.
Inspiration and motivation are over-hyped parameters which do not feature in
the equation. Start before you are ready. The problem with a thing like a New
Year resolution is that we attempt to achieve something which is really out of
our grasp. The only way around this is to follow your schedule come what may in
order to gain the necessary skills. DON’T STICK TO YOUR GOALS. STICK TO YOUR
SCHEDULE.
I hope
this little sermon of mine helps you put a step ahead en route to your goals.
May God bless you with love, happiness and the fortitude to face the challenges
that come knocking at your door. The writers of The Maverick Take wish you a
very happy New Year!
P.S. : This post is largely inspired from James Clear’s
blog. Here is the link- http://jamesclear.com/